It’s deeply personal. Maybe it’s a recent diagnosis, something chronic and unescapable? The doctors say you have a year or less, and that’s that. There’s nothing else they can do. It’s a dead-end situation. No amount of problem-solving will fix this one. Or perhaps you crashed your car and don’t have the money to fix […]
Maybe it happened suddenly. Life hit you hard, a sucker punch you hadn’t seen coming. Maybe it was slow, seeping into your identity while you were distracted. All you know is somewhere along the line you stopped believing in yourself. Now you can’t do anything right, it’s all inner criticism criticism criticism, and finding your […]
People with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) struggle with nightmares. The dreams can be so terrifying they’re often afraid to sleep. If this sounds familiar, here are seven nightmare-busting methods to help you conquer bad dreams.
When this happens, when the past is so painful it’s intolerable and the future is so scary you’re not ready to go there, focus on the NOW.
In the language of Freud, defense mechanisms are the unconscious things we do to deal with difficult emotion or stress. They are kind of like absent-minded coping skills, and we all use them. They’re natural and normal. They help us deal with life struggles. But, just like coping skills, defense mechanisms come in different flavors. […]
“Speak when you are angry, and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” — Ambrose Bierce Maybe your anger is a little out of control? Or maybe it’s big-time explosive and desperately needs reigning in? Or is it just that people around you are hinting you need anger management classes? No matter […]
Problem: your aunt breaths fire at you whenever you see her. She’s belittling, insulting, hurtful, and all other synonyms for “offensive” you can come up with, and her nastiness burns you. What do you do? Is this worth a big fight, an exchange of words, a gentle palaver, or should you just leave it alone? […]
When was the last time you did something you regret? Like drive by that old boyfriend’s house just “because.” It starts out innocently enough. There’s that old yearning and a little curiosity, and you hope by God you see him. He’ll have gained weight, have an enormous beer belly, and his hair will be filthy […]