Guilt is about feeling bad, even disliking ourselves, over something we did or didn’t do in the past. Guilt can be normal: the fact that we feel it proves that we have compassion for others. At the same time, guilt can become so toxic and destructive that it overwhelms, and that’s when it’s time to […]
Depression. A miserable experience. When mild, it steals your dreams. When severe, it runs you over with stagnancy, painful thoughts, guilt, and shutdown. It’s also not just a single emotion. Depression comes in dozens of flavors and intensities, if not hundreds, and can vary from day to day, if not throughout the day. One minute […]
Giving up drugs creates an enormous hole in your life. Beforehand addiction took up most of your time, and now that you’re clean, there’s something missing. You often don’t know what to do with yourself. Sound familiar? This free 2-page worksheet is about filling that hole with something worthwhile.
So you’ve met someone you don’t know and it’s time to have a conversation, hopefully create a friendship, and your first tendency is to… run. Sound familiar? If talking to strangers feels like a bucketful of icy, cold water thrown in your direction, you’ve found the right spot. This post is written for all shy, […]
You have a burning question. There’s something painful in your life, and you stay awake long into the night looking for an answer. It’s urgent, and the emotion is killing you. Maybe it’s a daughter who uses drugs. Or you’re coping with an illness, stuck with out-of-control anger, or trying to decide whether to drop […]
Few are born with achievement awards hanging on their walls. Success has to start from zero, a lonely but white-washed place where nothing’s been achieved and nothing’s been earned. And most of us have to “trial-and-error” life to figure out where we are, never mind where we want to go. Success doesn’t come naturally. And […]
Maybe it happened suddenly. Life hit you hard, a sucker punch you hadn’t seen coming. Maybe it was slow, seeping into your identity while you were distracted. All you know is somewhere along the line you stopped believing in yourself. Now you can’t do anything right, it’s all inner criticism criticism criticism, and finding your […]
“I believe that words are strong, that they can overwhelm when what we fear seems more awful than life is good.” –Andrew Solomon, The Noonday Demon Writing as a weapon Depression is an evil companion. It challenges us with a duel to the death but takes away the very weapons we need to fight back: […]