We hear the duo argument all the time: “It takes two to tango,” “two heads are better than one,” “there’s no I in team.” But what do you do if your relationship is in trouble and your partner isn’t ready to work on the problem? Of course it’s better to tango with two, but if you’re […]
A family member is badgering you: what do you do?
Problem: your aunt breaths fire at you whenever you see her. She’s belittling, insulting, hurtful, and all other synonyms for “offensive” you can come up with, and her nastiness burns you. What do you do? Is this worth a big fight, an exchange of words, a gentle palaver, or should you just leave it alone? […]
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Behavioral Therapy: why you shouldn’t drive by your ex’s house
When was the last time you did something you regret? Like drive by that old boyfriend’s house just “because.” It starts out innocently enough. There’s that old yearning and a little curiosity, and you hope by God you see him. He’ll have gained weight, have an enormous beer belly, and his hair will be filthy […]
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How to deal with difficult people
It takes guts to deal with toxic relationships. The difficult person might be a peer at school, colleague, parent, sibling, or neighbor, and they can do damage. This post is about dealing with problem situations in assertive ways. Being assertive means standing up for your rights in a direct, honest way. It’s about solving a […]
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Tips for coping with divorce
It could be you’re in the middle of a divorce and wake up every morning hurt, disappointed, miserable, or angry. Or you’re past the legal and financial aspects of separation, everything finalized, and think you should be feeling relief by now — but the feelings won’t go away. Here are some ideas to keep you […]
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Asperger’s: MORE tips for talking to neurotypicals
Stating the problem This article is about learning social skills. But first, let’s talk about abilities! People with Asperger’s Syndrome have many strengths to balance out the difficulties life throws in their direction, like high IQ’s, amazing mathematic and scientific skills, and a quick, punny sense of humor. Socially they tend to be honest, straight-forward […]
